In my last post, I wrote about four barriers to great group prayer. One of those barriers was group members’ lack of experience with prayer. So, let’s dig a little deeper into what that barrier looks like and some things you can do to overcome it.
Group members who don’t have a lot of experience with prayer usually struggle in two ways:
1. They lack knowledge.
Some group members just don’t know how to pray. Maybe it’s new to them, or maybe they’ve prayed privately but never in a group. One way to overcome this hurdle is to devote a Life Group meeting to a discussion about prayer. During the discussion, define or explain prayer and then lead your group through focused prayer based on the discussion. There are lots of ways to teach the principles of prayer. One is the ACTS approach in which you give your group a brief description of four aspects of prayer using the ACTS acronym:
Adoration-Acknowledging who God is, worshiping him, and praising him for his character and attributes.
Confession-Confessing sins to clear away anything that breaks fellowship with God.
Thanksgiving-Acknowledging that God provides for our needs, and communicating gratitude for what he has already done and provided.
Supplication- Presenting our requests to God.
After explaining each aspect of ACTS, encourage group members to think about what they would like to say to God in that area. Lead a time of prayer where members pray out loud about that area. You may also want to provide group members with a note card or “cheat sheet” to help them remember how to incorporate each aspect into their personal prayers.
2. They lack confidence.
It should come as no surprise that people who don’t know how to pray will be reluctant to do it out loud. Walking group members through the ACTS approach to prayer will probably alleviate some confidence problems. But you can also help them build confidence by creating some low-intensity baby steps that allow them to practice:
- Ask a group member to pray before the group eats dinner or dessert. (You may want to talk to the group member ahead of time, so you’re not putting him or her on the spot.)
- Have each person in the group write one prayer request on an index card and pass it to the person on his or her left. Then have each person pray out loud for the request on the card.
- Split into groups of two or three for prayer time so no one has to pray in front of more than two other people.
In the next post, we’ll take a look at what to do when your group’s prayers lack authenticity and depth.